Rejection from Your Past Does Not Define You

Do you ever feel like you’re not good enough? Like what you have to say doesn’t matter? Or, how you look is connected to how you deserve to be loved and admired?

I’ve believed all of these lies and at times continue to fall into this negative mindset. I connect my worthiness to my looks, actions, or peoples responses.

Just recently, one of my close friends and I, took a road-trip from Illinois to Michigan as a way to retreat from what’s become “normal” in our everyday lives to simply be away, be present in the moment and enjoy nature.

And to be honest with you, I haven’t been feeling my best physically for a while, but I hadn’t realized how much I was speaking negatively about my weight until these 3 days away from home. Yes, I have gained weight over the past year, and that’s okay. But I realize that what was not okay is the fact that I was connecting my worth with my body image and approval of men because of past experiences and hurts.

Munising, Michigan

Prior to our little getaway I had been feeling the need to retreat and simply be still. I had been praying and asking God to reveal to me why I was sometimes feeling off lately. It was in these three days that God was revealing to me what I had been needing to see, but it wasn’t until I came back home that I realized what I needed as I reflected on my getaway.

You know, sometimes we simply go through life and allow past hurts become our identity without even realizing it.

I don’t know where you have been in your journey, but I can almost promise that at some point you might have been rejected in some way or overlooked. Somewhere in your journey the person you thought would love you unconditionally later on betrayed you by seeking pleasure elsewhere instead of with you. Perhaps that left you feeling “less than” or “not enough” and as if you couldn’t measure up anymore. Or, you might have been rejected after speaking your mind and ideas you personally thought were great and that other person completely ignored you making you feel dumb and worthless.

My friend, I’ve felt these thing before and I confess to you that these negative thoughts at times come back to me and I start to believe these lies again to the point where I stop myself from fulfilling a dream, completing a project, or even allowing myself to fall in love again out of fear.

But it doesn’t have to be this way.

What people have done to you or said to you is not about you.

You are worthy to be loved and what you have to say does matter.

God created each and every one of us on purpose and for a purpose and He does not make mistakes.

Yes, we are flawed and will never be perfect, but we do play a role in this life to finish the work He began in us.

Instead of believing the lies we once believed, we need to seek God and ask Him to renew our minds as He reveals to us how He sees us. Our complete confidence, fulfillment and peace needs to come from Him as we choose daily obedience towards Him.

Let the Spirit renew your thoughts and attitudes. Put on your new nature, created to be like God- truly righteous and holy.”

Ephesians 4:23-24

When your mind tells you, “Nobody loves me.” God says, “I love you.” ~John 3:16

When you start to think, “I’m not smart enough.” God says, “I will give you wisdom.” ~1 Corinthians 1:30

When you feel afraid, God says, “I have not given you a spirit of fear.” ~2 Timothy 1:7

When you feel alone, God reminds you, “I will never leave you.” ~Hebrews 13:5

When you feel like you can’t go on, God says, “My grace is sufficient.” ~2 Corinthians 12:9

Dear friend, you are not your past mistakes or failures. What people have said about you or how they made you feel does not define you. Every day is a second chance and when you look close enough, you can find beauty wherever you go and in everything you go through. All things are possible with God when they are in His will for your life…

Trust God, and do Good 🙂

Me admiring the beauty of nature and its creator. Munising, Michigan.