Singled Out

Hi friends!

As we approach Valentines Day and I continue to be a sucker for love stories and all of the cheesy Hallmark moves I felt compelled to write on singleness which I believe is one of the most important and sometimes difficult season of our lives.

Yoliz, why do you think singleness is an important season in our lives?

I’m glad you asked! 😉 LOL

First of all, let me point out that marriage is NOT the goal of life, and this is coming from someone who began dating behind her parents back at the age of 13, married at 18 divorced at 22, then again engaged at 25 (called it off but lets keep this short for now) . Trust me, I would have never though i’d be saying this. And yes, it took me almost 26 years to realize that marriage was never the goal of life, but what can I say, I grew up on replaying Cinderella on my VCR and Spanish soap operas on regular cable which all ended in marriage as a happily ever after.

Now as a 28 year old woman surrounded by men as I work in the barbering business you’d think I have options and I probably do, but dating my own clients is not an option for me. By the grace of God I’ve thankfully understood and begin to understand what setting boundaries is all about.

This past weekend I attended a wedding in Florida to which my good friend invited me to be a bridesmaid. I was a bit surprised that she had asked me but I was so excited to be part of it. The wedding was perfect and all of its details were very similar to what I’d been pinning on my Pinterest over the past years which I thought was pretty amazing. I hadn’t met her fiancé until the day before their wedding and I was in awe of how perfect the bride and groom were for each other as I continued to see how they interacted with one another.

The day of the wedding came and after all the getting dolled up, pictures taken and roaming around, the bride and I had a few minutes to be alone in the dressing room and I can honestly say that this was a God given moment for the both of us in the way He spoke through her as she poured out tears of joy not simply because this was her wedding day, but because she knew God was pouring out His overwhelming love to her this day and has been all her life. As she spoke I listened and knew God was speaking to me through her as well. ❤️

The evening continued and as the dancing and celebrating started I knew that only one other girl and myself were the only single ladies at the wedding. But you know what? I never felt singled out and I know this was all God’s spirit within me. I chose to enjoy every moment of it with my plus one whom I love to call my Mamá. After all this was never about me. This was about the groom and the bride and us celebrating what God had joined together.

Our lives are not about us. Life is about our bridegroom and celebrating each day by enjoying what we already have in front of us.

If you’re currently single and desire to be a spouse one day then rejoice because God does have someone in mind for you, that’s why He places that desire within you in the first place. Trust His timing, not yours. It’s easy to become frustrated and want to manipulate things to happen in our lives, but that’s not the story you want to tell, is it? Let God write your life/love story and ask Him to help you do what you are called to do today. Don’t waste the waiting. God gives us all gifts and talents for us to serve (check Romans 12:3-7).

Lord, thank you for this season of my life. Forgive me for trying to get ahead of You at times and wanting to do things my way instead of Yours. I ask that You help me not let this season of my life go to waste but to instead use all that You give me to advance Your kingdom here on Earth for Your glory. In Jesus’s name I pray, Amen.

Trust God, and Do Good 🙂