Giving into sexual temptation out of fear

Happy 2019!

I hope you enjoyed these past holidays my friends and that this new year brings you much joy and abundance of blessings!

If you’ve been following my blogs for a while then you’ve learned that I loved watching the Disney movie “Cinderella” growing up. I loved it so much that I desired to one day have a fairytale romance like hers. Well, as you already might know, my story has not been nearly as close as hers. Although I wouldn’t say that I had a horrible upbringing, I wouldn’t say that I felt very loved or even noticed which is why I now understand why I made some negative choices in my past. In fact, I still am learning how to make choices that are honoring to God.

Let me explain…

Have you ever compromised your morals out of fear?

I know I have and the truth is that I didn’t know I was doing it or why. I thought I knew how far was too far when it came to sex. To me, it honestly meant actual intercourse, but never “just” a touch here and there. Oh, how wrong was I! But everyone around me made it seem like it was okay, yet something always felt so wrong if a boyfriend at the time would try to touch me. I never went too far until the one who would later become my husband, but why did I allow men to touch me in the first place if it didn’t feel right to me?

If you want my honest answer, I was afraid of being alone. I couldn’t bear the thought of being alone again. I didn’t want to be brokenhearted yet that’s what always ended up happening.  I though that by compromising “just a little” then I couldn’t lose the person and they would still stick around. I look back and think how foolish I was yet I realize how easy it is to fall back into that fear. But God… He is always faithful and my grace is renewed each day, He doesn’t want me or you to simply follow rules, He wants us to have a change of heart. Even if our surroundings don’t change, His desire is for us to change.

Instead of asking how far is too far? Which ultimately means “how much can I get away with without making God mad?” It’s not even a question to consider. Rather, we should be motivated by a totally different question: “How can I please God in this area of my life and represent Him well?” 

No man or woman on earth can fulfill or complete us, only God can. Honestly, that took me years to figure out and God continues to teach me to surrender all to Him daily. It is the intimate relationship with our King and Prince of Peace that we can truly be satisfied. Honestly, if we compromise our bodies out of fear of losing someone whom isn’t our husband/wife then, do we really value ourselves? I know I didn’t nor did I trust God with the love story He has for me. But it’s never too late to let go and let Him help us do singleness His way and with Him. 😉

“For what the law could not do in that it was weak through the flesh, God did by sending His own Son.” ~Romans 8:3

“I will instruct you and teach you in the way you should go.” Psalm 32:8

Trust God, and Do Good 🙂


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