The first time I heard, “Are you dating Him or are you married?” was a powerful question that got me thinking. It opened my mind to what I should be doing on a daily basis since becoming a new creation. The moment I chose to become a Christian, I knew that I would change my old ways and become a better version of myself. But my selfish desires kept me from seeing further than reality.
I was eager to start my new life with Christ and to learn more about the Bible. Little did I know that a lot was about to change in just a few months after becoming baptized. The more I studied the word, the more I noticed changes in my character (which is a great thing!) But I didn’t realize how much I’d also lose along the way. But you know what? It’s all been worth it. He really has restored double of what I’ve lost.
Through out my journey of self-study and being involved in my church, iv’e been blessed with incredible friends and real wisdom. Iv’e replaced bad habits with the things that are most pleasing to God, according to what I’ve learned on my own and through observing mentors and people of godly wisdom.
What my flesh desired…
As I mentioned before, my selfish desires kept me from really being intentional through my time with God. I still wanted to get angry and sin (pout and leave things undone), hang out with friends that were toxic and had different morals, I wanted to watch movies and not fast forward sexual scenes, and sometimes even sexually tempt my partner to whom I wasn’t married to. Honestly, I always felt guilty about these thing even before becoming a new born Christian. The only difference now though is that the guilt became more intensified!
Other things that may get in the way between you and God:
- Compromising morals in your job place
- Having sex outside of marriage
- Dressing provocative etc..
Obviously no one will ever be perfect in such an imperfect world and we can’t only have Christian friends, but we can make better choices in our every day life and be the salt of the earth to bring people closer to God. 
What being fully committed to Christ looks like now…
As soon as I married Christ instead of just dating Him, I began to see rapid changes in my persona. I was blessed with knowing how to stay calm in rough situations, I avoided any sexual scenes in movies, and I walked away from relationships, but most importantly, I have had the most tremendous amount of peace I have ever felt! Walking away from a relationship where I had felt wasn’t healthy for me at the time was very hard. But what made it easy was knowing God and listening to His commands which can only be learned by knowing to obey the Holy Spirit through study. I don’t fully understand why things are happening to me the way they are, but I know that it’s okay not to know because I have peace in my heart realizing that the Lord has plans to prosper me and not to harm me, plans to give me hope and a future…
“If anyone would come after me, let him deny himself and take up his cross and follow me. For whoever would save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life for my sake and the gospel’s will save it. For what does it profit a man to gain the whole world and forfeit his soul?” ~Mark 8:34-36
To deny yourself is to leave your old bad ways behind and take up God’s ways for His sake. To please Man is to keep doing worldly things that are unpleasant to God, but to please God is not only beneficial to us for our own physical and mental well being, but also speaks of our Lord through our actions.
Don’t just date Jesus on Sunday mornings, marry Him! The more you spend time with someone the more you learn their ways, your choice 😉
Trust God, and do good…
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